Kill Them with Kindness

fortune-cookie-golden-rule-300x200A common phrase in the South is “kill them with kindness.” Chances are a mom or teacher had told you this when faced with teasing or even bullies. The important thing to remember is that fake kindness (the “bless her heart” preceded by gossip kind) is not what they mean. Instead they are referring to what is commonly known as the Golden Rule.

Before your mouth starts watering for BBQ, know that the Golden Rule may be a restaurant but is also the name for one of the oldest adages of decent behavior: “Do to others what you want them to do to you.” It reaches across all types of peoples and cultures, as it is found everywhere from the Bible to fortune cookies to Wikipedia. Christians should also be familiar with the fact that after loving God, the most important command in the Bible is to “Love your neighbor as you love yourself” (Matt. 22:34ā€“40, NCV).

The hard part comes when people are treating you bad. Of course your natural instinct is to retaliate with hate. (Trust me, I’ve been there!) But someone has to be the first to make a right move and set the kindness cycle spinning. I recently wrote about the results of my spending an entire year focusing on doing one kind deed for others every day. As a result, I find myself naturally complimenting others and looking for ways to help. It also makes other people feel like being kind to me and others.

You never know the impact of one kind act. I once heard a story of a man who paid for the meal of the people waiting behind his car in a drive-through. He later found out from visiting the restaurant again that they in turn paid for the people’s meal in the car behind them. The next car did the same, and this went on for eight cars! How amazing is that! If you still think you can’t be the agent of change in a mean world, watch the video below about a teenage boy who changed his entire school and eventually many other schools. He also went from an outcast to a king simply by showing kindness, which proves another important point: “Whoever wants to be the most important must be last of all and servant of all” (Mark 9:35, NCV).

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