Donald Trump is perhaps the most controversial president to date, and he knows that many people don’t like him. That’s why it was interesting and amusing when he chose to play The Rolling Stones‘ “You Can’t Always Get What You Want” as his theme song. I’ve always liked this song (and most Rolling Stones songs), but during the election I really started listening to the lyrics. Though I will never run for president (Thank God!), this song is reassuring to me in everyday life as I often try to do and be everything all at one time.

Perfectionism is probably my biggest battle in life. My mom always said that my greatest enemy is myself, because I put so much pressure on myself to be and do all the time. She’s right. (Yes, Mama, I said it! You can print this out if you want for proof.) I would like to think that as time went on and I overcame the pettiness of my looks and what people thought about me that it would be better. It’s different, but probably not better.

What were insecurities seated in pride in my teens and early 20s was simply traded for trying to be the perfect woman. How do I balance my family, jobs, friends, church and “extras” like exercise or hobbies? For years I loathed anytime someone brought up the woman in Proverbs 31. (God, please tell me she’s a metaphor!) Though meant for encouragement, this passage reeked of guilt every time I read it.

Then, a friend said something one night that would change my life forever. “The woman in the passage did in fact do all of these things, just not in one day.” Thank God! I can’t tell you how freeing that tidbit of information was to me. That fact alone has helped me to trust God that as long as I do my best, I might not always can get what I want, but I can get what I need. And, of course, He will fill in all the blanks.

So what does this look like? Well, some days I work more than others at my job. Other days I may actually spend some extra time cooking (shocker for those who know me). When my son had tonsil surgery, two days were spent mainly catering to him. And I try to make it a priority to schedule time to read my Bible and workout throughout the week.

In a perfect world, my house would be clean all the time, I would have infinite time to play with my kids, and I would always get plenty of writing and designing completed each day. I would eat healthy and exercise and get plenty of sleep. But sometimes life gets hard and you have to order a pizza. That’s OK too.

If we could do everything all the time with no help, then we wouldn’t need our family and friends, or ultimately God. But we can’t do it all, all the time. Not to mention that if we had everything we think we want, we still wouldn’t be satisfied. How many times have you reached a goal in life just to think, Wow, I did it. OK, now what? Perfect is not satisfying, nor attainable. That’s why with God and hard work, “You can’t always get what you want; But if you try sometimes well you just might find . . . You get what you need.”


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